Thursday

OOTD: Matter of timing


Way back in 2013, Prabal Gurung released a collection for Target, and I snagged this vibrant floral blazer while shopping late at night during the launch between website crashes. But when it arrived, I didn't love it on. It was too ... something. So back it went.

I've been thinking about it recently and found multiple listings for it on eBay, including some at three times the price. But I was so lucky to find one for the original $50, with the tags still on, and the small fit! And now I feel like I can pull it off. Maybe it's because I'm more adventurous now. Maybe I just know how to style things better now and know what to do with a piece like this. But for whatever reason, now I feel like I can wear this jacket without it wearing me.

I wore it with my Loveappella top from Stitch Fix (that's my referral link, so go sign up!). Originally I thought I'd wear it with a black shirt, but I think wearing it with another colorful top sort of balances it out so that it doesn't overwhelm the rest of the outfit. I wore my Gorjana necklace, my Koolertron bag, my Sofia Vergara for Kmart jeans and ... um, I think these boots were from Shoe Dazzle but I'm not totally sure. It's kinda like a rocker girl on a romantic date look.

Even more Stitch Fix outfits


I've got a nice little wardrobe going with my Stitch Fix buys, and I decided to compile some outfits with pieces from my Fixes.

Details clockwise from top left: 

1. I combined my Absolutely sweater with jeggings, my Target riding boots and boot toppers for a cozy look. This sweater doesn't exactly make me look svelte, but I love how it feels. It look great with the cargo vest I'll mention later.

2. I knotted my Pixley Edmond top and wore it with my Margaret M faux leather skirt, my Clarks and burgundy tights that I literally picked up at the grocery store.

3. The Market & Spruce Corinna dolman sleeve top is super soft looks awesome with my Forever 21 blazer, my Bancroft Winona medallion necklace, the Wal-Mart jeggings I got for my Ms. Marvel costume and my Target moto boots.

4. In the bottom three pictures, I'm wearing the Liverpool Mira skinny jeans, which have a high, elastic waistband that's actually super flattering. These are much thicker and more substantial than my Liverpool Madonna jeggings or the Wal-Mart ones I have a few pairs of. I paired my leopard print cardigan from The Limited with the Brixon Ivy Clifton embellished tank. Honestly, I like how the leopard looks with the embellishment, but I think this would look better with a draped cardigan so the neckline of the cardigan doesn't clash with the embellishment.

5. I wore my Market & Spruce Brentwood top with the jeans, my Target cargo vest and an infinity scarf from Echo.

6. The pattern of the Loveappella Ames slit back top is gorgeous and I thought it looked really cool paired with the Blank NYC Lettie faux leather and knit drape jacket. I wore this outfit with jewelry I got from Gorjana during the brand's 70% off holiday hangover sale. I'm normally not a yellow gold person, but I've been branching out.



That shorter necklace is actually longer than the bottom one. I tied it to be shorter with a clear rubber band. #lifehacker #wardrobewizard

My bag is from Koolertron. It's actually a camera bag I saw on Amazon while looking for a dupe of a bag I fell in love with on a blog, and my husband got it for me for Christmas. It fits everything, and and I love the color and the retro shape.


If you love any of the pieces in these outfits as much as I do, make sure you use my referral link to sign up, and I'll buy you a unicorn! Not really, but you'll get awesome fashion, and I'll get a credit.

Tuesday

Book review: "Cam Girl" by Leah Raeder


“Hate is when you love someone but wish you didn't.” 

Guys, are you aware that I love Leah Raeder? You should be by now. And as an aside, I'm so happy and proud for him as he transitions to his truest self, Elliot Wake, who is a snappy and dapper AF dresser, FYI.

Raeder's latest is Cam Girl, and as usual, it's a doozy. Cam Girl has all the hallmarks of a Raeder novel — obsessive love, lyrical and hallucinogenic prose, flawed heroines. But this is my favorite Raeder book. There's a million reasons why. For one thing, Vada Bergen, the narrator, is a Latina, and even as a Latina and a minority, I've only just recently begun to appreciate how important representation is (how weird is it that I'm a minority and I still find myself having to remind myself to include non-white characters, just because whiteness is so prevalent in literature? It's so telling).

"My love is savage and rapacious. It isn’t content to touch. It wants to be inside, crawl into the marrow, caress each vein until the cells are all mixed up and there is no you and me anymore, no secrets or shadows sliding between our skin."

For another thing, Vada is kind of an asshole. Which I so relate to. I should back up at this point and give a synopsis of the plot, right? OK. Plot. Vada Bergen is an artist whose entire reality is torn apart in a tragic car accident that causes her to lose function in her drawing hand and that wrecks the fraught relationship between her and her best friend/soulmate/sparring partner Ellis. Ellis and Vada clearly belong together, but like I said, Vada is an asshole, and she thinks that their intense sexual connection is just experimentation and hopes to one day have an idyllic, superhetero wedding in which poor Ellis will serve as the maid of honor (like I said — she's an asshole. But I still love her).

So Vada loses everything and everyone, and she's broke, and she's an outcast in her family, so when she's evicted from her place and approached by some sexy entrepreneurs who want to make her a cam girl, she thinks, hey, why not? Little does she know that camming will bring her face to face with the darkest recesses of herself, reunite her with Ellis, and introduce her to Blue, a patron who wants her all to himself.

“Was that what I’d have to do? Pry my ribs open and see whose hands fit, whose fingers were stained with the same red inside me?”

Cam Girl is about so many things, like every Raeder novel. It's about complicated love. It's a love triangle — but like any Raeder book, not like the kind of love triangle you expect. It's about disability, marginalization, reinvention, gender identity, sexual identity. You can't characterize Vada and Ellis as a healthy relationship, but something about it is just right. And Blue helps Vada heal, but how real can a relationship be behind a screen?

I loved going into the world of a cam girl, a profession full of taboo that most of us wouldn't even dare entertain venturing into. You can tell Raeder really researched the profession and managed to capture the sexiness of it without sensationalizing it.

Cam Girl is romantic as hell and probably the gooey-ooeyist of Raeder novels. Unteachable was stunning but gave me the squicks because it's about a teacher and a student, duh. Black Iris was violent and gave me nightmares, but like really interesting nightmares. Cam Girl, no spoilers, has the cutest and happiest of endings and is the first Raeder novel where I really rooted for the main character and love interest (and I won't tell you which of the two love interests!).

Who should read Cam Girl? Anyone interested in learning about people on the trans spectrum, anyone who appreciates steamy romance, anyone who loves damn good writing. Anyone, really. Raeder/Wake groupie for life, yo.